How to deal with toxic people in life

Do you have people in your life who always throw you off? Regardless of how happy you are, or regardless of how content you feel, the moment you hang out with these people, your mood just drops like a rock. Welcome to the club. We all need to learn how to deal with the toxic people in life at some point.

If you have any friends or family, and this means that you’re part of 99.9% of the human population, there will always be a toxic person. There’s at least one.

Regardless of how well everything is going in their lives, they always manage to snatch defeat from the jaws of victory. That’s just the way they are.

It’s seems that everything they touch somehow turns sour. No matter how bright, no matter how hopeful, no matter how optimistic, they always make things negative. It’s always the worst case scenario.

The problem with toxic people is not a problem at all. They are who they are. They made their beds, and you should allow them to sleep in them. We are all entitled to live the lives that we have chosen.

But the problem is, when you define them as toxic people, you trigger a chain reaction in your mind that ensures that their toxicity seeps into your mind. Negative as they are, and no matter how much distance you would like, some of it seeps in.

Why? Well, because of your choices. Negative people are only negative because you made them negative.

I know that sounds crazy because you probably have a friend or an acquaintance or a relative that you know full well is a social cancer. This person is just the worst of the worst. But believe me, your power of definition is more powerful than you give it credit.

And a lot of the times, you are reading this negativity into that person. And worst yet, you are allowing it to poison you as well. Believe me, there is no person in the world that is 100% negative. It all boils down to perspective.

I don’t want to get all postmodern on you and I definitely don’t want this to be misconstrued or misunderstood as some sort of postmodern amoral philosophical discussion. It isn’t. What I’m just saying is that there are always two sides to a story.

And it may well turn out that the reason why these “toxic” people around you are slowly killing you is because you allow them to. You define things in such a way that they are toxic.

This is where it gets uncomfortable. Because if you were to change your decisions, if you were to change your attitude and perspective, things will improve.

But let’s get real here. This takes work. It also takes maturity, and one person has to be the adult. Who wants to be that, right?

Part of what makes “detoxifying” our relationships such a burden and such a hassle is because of the fact that we feel we can’t do it. We feel that it’s too much work. We feel that there is just too much at risk. In other words, we’re making a thousand and one excuses why we don’t want to do it.

Well, if you’re sick and tired of making excuses, time to find your zen. The simple meditation practice, which takes less than 15 minutes every single day, can enable you to get the mental and willpower resources you need to detoxify anybody you come across.

Ultimately, the social cancer that you feel negatively impacts you is a choice. It is a definition. And for it to have any power, you have to buy into the definition. Learning how to deal with toxic people in life is a gift that will give you back time, energy and peace of mind. You deserve it!

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